Ways to Stop Losing Your Cool and Improve Communication with Your Teen
If you and your teen argue over social media use, grades, getting homework done, curfews, study time, procrastination, and preparing for college, then "Is That Me Yelling?" with author, educator, health care professional, and leading authority on parenting Rona Renner may be just what you need.
Based on her new book of the same title, "Is That Me Yelling?" offers practical solutions designed to help you communicate effectively and compassionately with your child.
Best-selling author, speaker, and physician Deepak Chopra, MD, said of Renner's book, "A parent's responsibility is to facilitate the development of their child's consciousness. Thanks to Rona Renner's insightful book, parents now have tools to help accomplish this."
WHEN: Monday, April 13, 2015 at 7:30 pm
WHERE: Orinda Academy, 19 Altarinda Rd, Orinda, CA 94563
Attendees will learn how to identify the reasons behind their frustrations and how to handle stressful situations while staying calm, clear, and firm.
This 90-minute presentation will include a question & answer session and is sponsored by SOS 4 Students in partnership with Orinda Academy (www.orindaacademy.org).
Learn more and register online at www.sos4students.com/presents-rona-renner.
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- Have students realize that online lists of assignments do not substitute for planners!
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How much should I be managing my 7th grade son's work at home? We've just started requiring him to use his planner but it's slow going and he is not remembering. We've set up a rewards system but I feel like we keep having to start from scratch because his progress with organization is so slow. We have a 504 in place but it doesn't say much at all except that he gets extended time on tests and preferential seating. The other day, he left class with a completed test in his backpack so now it's showing as a zero online. What do you recommend?
Signed: Frustrated and At Wits End
Dear At Wits End:
The scenario you describe one of the most common ones we see in our offices: weak or ineffectual 504 plans, middle school boys (or even high school students) who don't know what is due or when, who can't find their important papers, and who have problems finding a planning system that works.
While online reporting systems are designed to keep us up-to-date, they can also lead to panicked parents who see missing grades and begin to feel everything is spiraling out of control. Add in emails from teachers, and it can all get a bit overwhelming.
Middle school boys, especially those with ADHD, learning disabilities, and organizational challenges, often struggle with managing the paper work that comes at them daily. It has nothing to do with native intelligence. This affects students across the board.
Recently, one professional commented to me that it’s bizarre that we are still overloading students with hard copies to be completed and brought back to school instead of allowing students with organizational challenges to complete work online and submit it via Google Drive or Drop Box. After all, online work is the wave of the near future.
In the meantime, here are a few simple suggestions that can help you now:
- Create an after school routine that looks like this: 1) Take out planner, 2) Check planner against online information; 3) Put all due dates, upcoming tests, appointments, and other activities in the planner; 4) Make a to-do list on paper or on a whiteboard for the day and cross off items when finished.
- Ask teachers to cue the student to check his backpack for work before assuming it is not in and giving a zero. If a test is not handed in and the student was there for the test, the first obvious place it would be is the backpack or notebook. The cue to look (hand on shoulder, whisper in ear) so as not to embarrass is essential.
- Have a folder the student chooses where work in progress (to turn in and to do) lives. All notes, graded work, syllabi, and other papers not currently in progress need to be stored in the binder or accordion folder or removed from the backpack entirely. In general, no student should be walking around with papers from bygone units circa September 2014 at this point. Old papers just clog up the backpack and make it harder to find current work.
- Improving the 504 is another necessity. One step in that direction is to update the 504 coordinator regarding your son's current needs. Make additional suggestions for accommodations, such as a one-day extension for late work (as it may simply be temporarily misplaced) or adding in the idea of the teacher cueing the student. Then arrange a meeting to review it all.
Good luck . . . and remember, patience is required with middle school students and change is not overnight.
This day-long program at AT&T Park in San Francisco features workshops and activities for kids and parents, plus keynote speaker Gavin Newsom, Lieutenant Governor of California.
WHAT: EdRev 2015 - Reimagine the Learning Journey
WHEN: Saturday, April 25, 2015, 8:45 am to 4:00 pm
WHERE: AT& T Park in San Francisco
This event is free for students and educators.
For information on the event, visit www.edrevsf.org.